Letters to Luthien

Letters to My Future Bride

How To Heal Me

Woman hugs manDear Darling,

I’m really not that high-maintenance. And no, I’m not depressed. (Trust me, I’ve been around people like that. They’re black holes. I give, not take.) But yes, I do have hard times. I thought maybe you’d like a list of how to help fix them for me.

1. Hug me.

2. Text me and ask about me. Don’t believe me if I say fine.

3. Say “aww” if I tell you something bad that happened.

4. Encourage me.

5. Remind me who I am, who I’ve been, what I’ve done. I forget to look back and see how far I’ve come.

6. Listen to me.

7. When we’re talking, ask questions. I always like it when someone says “can I ask you a personal question?”

8. Sit on the couch and invite me to lay my head in your lap. Rub my hair while we talk.

9. Write me a letter. Or, just leave a note.

10. Remind me you’re here for me.

11. Bake a dessert.

12. Be there waiting for me when I reach the end of myself.

13. Pray with me, and for me. Remind me where true strength comes from.

14. Look deep into my eyes with yours with a “hey…hey. Talk to me.”

15. Pull me out of myself. Remind me what’s right…gently.

16. Be understanding…and honest if you don’t understand.

17. Know when I’m just too tired to think; know when to just put me to bed.

18. Forgive me.

19. Wait for me.

20. Think of things to do with me.

21. Compliment me.

22. Fight for me. Fight ME for me if you have to.

23. Thank me for being me.

24. Don’t give up when things get hard.

25. Be there for me when I need you.

26. Tell me you love me.

I promise to do the same for you.


February 8, 2013 Posted by | About Me, Loneliness | Leave a comment